What is masking?

It’s common to move through the world wearing different masks—at work, at home, with friends. These masks can help us get through the day, manage responsibilities, or keep things running smoothly.

Wearing a mask, in and of itself, isn't necessarily a problem or a psychological red flag. But when we habitually wear the mask of “fine” or “nice” while struggling underneath and feeling misaligned, it becomes something else.

Masking is the act—sometimes conscious, often not—of hiding parts of ourselves: our emotions, needs, struggles, or even personality traits. This is often done to meet expectations, avoid conflict or judgment, or maintain a sense of control and safety.

It might look like:

• Smiling through discomfort

• Saying “yes” when you mean “no”

• Avoiding vulnerability to keep the peace

• Suppressing anxiety, sadness, or anger because it's “not the right time”

While masking can serve as a short-term survival strategy, over time it can lead to:

• Emotional exhaustion

• Chronic stress or burnout

• Disconnection from yourself and others

• A deep sense of inauthenticity

Therapy offers a space where you don’t have to wear the mask. Together, we can explore what’s underneath—with curiosity, compassion, and tenderness.